On why you should keep expecting (even when it hurts)

9:52:00 AM

Every new year, we make a promise to ourselves that we'll own it. Some years we fail, and people often fall for that discouragement. Uncertainties are scary and I'm not for underrating any kind of fear. But eventually we need to be pushed outside that box.

I am a big unbeliever of the saying: "No expectations, no disappointment." (Sometimes it sounds more like an excuse.) I, too, am a casualty of failed expectations. The pain, the disappointment - often times when I get down to my knees, I question the need to feel hope for something, if only to be let down. But I learned that while expectations can be a big source of pain, it is also an evidence of our ability to see the good in people. It is a proof of faith and faithfulness. (And don't we all need fewer people to be cynical about our own ability to do better?)

I think the answer is not to stop expecting, but rather be realistic about it. Hope for the good things, the true things. Place your expectations with humane limitations and sincerity in mind. Take off the beer goggles and rose-colored glasses, and put on lenses of understanding. And as you wait on that hope to bear fruit, shoot out some good deeds/ideas to the world because I tell you, and you can trust me on this, you will reap what you sow.

And so I leave you with a few more words of wisdom (in 140 characters or less) from some very bright minds (which also doubles as a to-follow list on Twitter - for good vibes!).

1. "It takes huge effort to try and see the goodness in people because generally, people are jerks. But that effort is always worth it." Khaela de Leon (@khaela)

2. "Remember who believed in you." DJ Run (@Run_P)

3. "It seems so silly and sentimental and useless when I listen to what my heart says. But over riches, props, a perfect home: the heart rules." mindground (@mindground)

4. "Some need anchors. Some need wings. Both, you say? But of course." Sarah Meier-Albano (@sarah-meier)

5. "Rise above the petty dramas that don't do anyone any good. Where you put your awareness and your attention is where your life will go." Ralph Marston (@ralphmarston)

6. "What if every time someone hurts you, you help another person back? It’s no easy task to forget a wrong but responses can be trained. A lot of times the deepest thoughts which are lost to us control our impulses." Edric Chen (via Tumblr)

With confidence let us claim that it will be an amazing year. Game on, 2013!

"You crown the year with Your goodness, and Your paths drip with abundance." Psalms 65:11


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  1. Right on! Reminds me of a the nursing stuff called SMART. Plans must be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bounded. Too often we wander off to immeasurable heights.


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